Hi Diane,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts about when you might use the Appreciation Dialogue. It is most powerful when couples are not in such a reactive place because it helps them keep in mind the good things that they have experienced. Sometimes once a couple is in a reactive place they become defended and their reactivity stirs up the old brain and it is hard for them to send an Appreciation. It can be transformational if you can get the partner to stretch out of their reactivity and become more intentional.
I would like to suggest that you try the Appreciation Dialogue at the beginning of your sessions. It helps get the couple into a connected space todo their work.
Looking forward to seeing you in class on Thursday.
Thank you for taking the time to share your insights with everyone.
Herb