So beautifully said! YES, the Relationship is the vehicle in which the couple evolves. That reminds me of a quote by Thomas Merton: “Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone, we find it with another.”
And yes, restoration of FULL ALIVENESS is an innate desire and also a natural outcome of this relational work. One small tweak (although I suspect you know this) is that connection/interconnection already exists. It does not need to be a goal because it’s already there. Sadly because we EXPERIENCE ourselves as “disconnected” when the connection is painful, we forget this Universal Truth and then we go into defending and attaching….. in an attempt to “protect” ourselves.
I particularly appreciated your comment about being part of the couple’s journey (evolution). We are so fortunate/privileged to do this level of work. Thank you for that wonderful share!!