Ways I have used to help couples to re-romanticize their relationship.
• Date night (no kids)
• I have used the Re-Romanticizing exercise (# 10) from the book Getting The Love you Want. Each partner identifies what the partner is already doing that pleases him/her, what they used to do that they are no longer doing and what they have always wanted but never asked for. Wonderful results.
• I always ask in the first session how they met and what attracted them to the other, list all their qualities, attributes etc. I have seen this melt even the most toughest angriest guy.
The things I will or might implement as a result of this lesson:
• The surprise list
• The fun list
• Positive flooding
• Caring behavior dialogue
• Appreciation dialogue
I like Jina’s idea i.e. the Games night and also the one minute hug.
What about suggesting that they go to a Comedy Club or Improv Theatre for some laughs and light hearted fun.