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Thanks, Cadey!15 October 2020 at 12:40 pm in reply to: QUESTION FOR PONDER – for week 3 on Evolutionary Journey #26550
Ditto for your astute observations. I particularly appreciate your last comment -Take Away:
• Invite/teach couples to become curious about what is fueling the reactivity.
Curiosity can not be understated.
So beautifully said! YES, the Relationship is the vehicle in which the couple evolves. That reminds me of a quote by Thomas Merton: “Love is our true destiny. We do not find the meaning of life by ourselves alone, we find it with another.”
And yes, restoration of FULL ALIVENESS is an innate desire and also a natural outcome of this relational work. One small tweak (although I suspect you know this) is that connection/interconnection already exists. It does not need to be a goal because it’s already there. Sadly because we EXPERIENCE ourselves as “disconnected” when the connection is painful, we forget this Universal Truth and then we go into defending and attaching….. in an attempt to “protect” ourselves.
I particularly appreciated your comment about being part of the couple’s journey (evolution). We are so fortunate/privileged to do this level of work. Thank you for that wonderful share!!
These are great suggestions. Like Herb, I start most sessions with a version of the Appreciation Dialogue. Sometimes I’ll change it up and ask them what they appreciate about their Relationship or what they appreciate themselves.
Thank you all for your sharing and participation.